Chapter nine


Let Our Yes Mean Yes and Our No Mean No.

If we agree to something we don’t want to do, or don’t know how to do, we will regret it. We may say “yes” to avoid the consequences of saying “no.” When words and body language don’t match, we don’t trust the message.


How Do Issues of Boundaries Influence You Today?

Honoring Boundaries

Because “yes” is an agreement – a promise – it’s important to clarify our understanding of what’s expected before making a commitment. When we compromise what’s in our own best interest, we lose credibility and self-respect, and we may become embarrassed or resentful.


How do I get unstuck? By learning new skills! When it comes to learning, consider mastering these: Establish boundaries. Communicate clearly. Manage expectations. Earn self-respect.

Getting Unstuck contains step-by-step, how-to details of these and many other skills. If you’re really stuck, perhaps I can help!


“We may say ‘yes’ to avoid the consequence of saying ‘no,’ but this inauthentic behavior will most likely lead to greater problems.”

Esther Bleuel


Click on a Lesson That Resonates

Start Today on the Path to Getting Unstuck!

About Trust

We Can’t Always Believe What People Say, But We Will Always Believe What They Do.

About Being Powerless

All We Can Do Is All We Can Do Within Our Sphere of Influence.

About Self-Respect

It’s Our Responsibility to Be Important to Ourselves.

About Persistence

It’s Our Responsibility to Be Important to Ourselves.

About Forgiveness

Deciphering Our Childhood Is Not About Vilifying Our Parents. It’s About Understanding Why We Are the Way We Are.

About Focus

Start with the End in Mind.

About Perspective

Mistakes Are Okay. Just Be Sure to Make New Mistakes.

About Learning

We Must Learn Our Own Lessons, in Our Own Time, in Our Own Way.

About Boundaries

Let Our Yes Mean Yes and Our No Mean No.

About Wisdom

Knowing About is Not the Same as Truly Knowing.

About Attitude

It’s Not What Happens So Much. It’s How We Handle Things and What They Mean to Us That Count.

About Letting Go

We Will Never Forget a Painful Experience, But We Can Learn Not to Be Prisoners of Our Emotions.

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