Chapter nine
BoundariesLet Our Yes Mean Yes and Our No Mean No.
If we agree to something we don’t want to do, or don’t know how to do, we will regret it. We may say “yes” to avoid the consequences of saying “no.” When words and body language don’t match, we don’t trust the message.
Lessons
How Do Issues of Boundaries Influence You Today?
Honoring Boundaries
Because “yes” is an agreement – a promise – it’s important to clarify our understanding of what’s expected before making a commitment. When we compromise what’s in our own best interest, we lose credibility and self-respect, and we may become embarrassed or resentful.
Skills
How do I get unstuck? By learning new skills! When it comes to learning, consider mastering these: Establish boundaries. Communicate clearly. Manage expectations. Earn self-respect.
Getting Unstuck contains step-by-step, how-to details of these and many other skills. If you’re really stuck, perhaps I can help!
Perspective
“We may say ‘yes’ to avoid the consequence of saying ‘no,’ but this inauthentic behavior will most likely lead to greater problems.”
Esther Bleuel
